Here are a few things I've learned about supporting a loved one with mental health issues:
A person suffering likely can't tell you what they need at the moment. The pain and feelings of isolation and worthlessness feel permanent, and they feel like they're drowning. Just like you wouldn't ask an actual drowning victim how you can help, don't ask a depressed person what you can do. Jump in. DO something. Saying "I'm bringing you by some dinner" is more powerful than saying "can I bring you by some dinner?" Declining help that is offered is much easier than asking for things.
Here are some links and resources to help friends and family of people suffering from depression and other mental health issues. National Alliance on Mental Illness, Help for Friends and Family Members of People with Depression,
There are many resources out there for family members and loved ones of those suffering from mental Heath issues as well. It's important to take care of yourself, too- be sure not to allow caring for another to negatively affect your health.
Weddings are stressful: there’s the cake, the location, the dress and the guest list to figure out. A great deal of time and money is spent on this major life event.
And although your wedding is something that you will remember forever, far too often couples pay more attention to the celebration of their new life together than to the nuts and bolts of their new life as a couple.
When two people make a commitment to each other, there are some important things that need to be discussed.
People seek marriage or relationship therapy for many reasons. For some people, it’s because of a crisis, such as infidelity, job loss, illness or accidents.
Others come in because they feel distant and want to grow closer, or they seek counseling before they marry to sort out any difficulties and ensure that they’re ready for life together.
Some couples simply know that something feels wrong but they don’t know what, and they want to fix it.
But once you and your partner have decided to seek counseling, how do you make the most of it? Here are six things to consider.
You will be asked to make changes in your behavior and how you think about things. But marriage counseling works. It can help people find more joy in one another. It can promote growth and healing.
Hopefully you will walk away with a better understanding of yourself, your partner, and your relationship. And these are things you can use for the rest of your life.
Jenise Harmon, LISW-S is the founder of New Wings Counseling and a licensed therapist who specializes working with couples and individuals who struggle with depression, anxiety, personality disorders, and general life struggles.